Valentine’s Weekend Recipes- Sunday

This is a continuation of our Valentine’s Day Weekend Recipes.  On to our last day- Sunday.


Breakfast- Since many married Christians have church on Sunday mornings, I chose something super simple to make.

‘ I Love You’ Waffles (recipe from ‘A Little Tipsy”)



Bisquick Pancake Mix (plus whatever ingredients are typically needed, as stated on the box)
Duncan Hines Red Velvet Cake Mix (plus whatever ingredients are typically needed, as stated on the box)
Whipped Cream


1. Mix up Bisquick and Cake mix separately according to package directions.
2. Mix together 1 part prepared cake batter to 4 parts Bisquick batter. (Ex- 1 cup Bisquick to 1/4 cup cake mix)
3. Pour in Waffle Maker and cook as usual.
4. Top waffle with a whipped cream heart and enjoy


Spaghetti with Sautéed Chicken and Grape Tomatoes (recipe from



2 skinless chicken breast halves, diced in 1 inch cubes
cooking spray
1/2 tsp each of dried oregano and dries basil
kosher salt and fresh pepper
8 oz spaghetti (high fiber or low carb) I used Ronzoni Smart Taste
2 cups grape tomatoes, halved
6 cloves garlic, smashed and coarsely chopped
4 tsp extra virgin olive oil
4 tbsp chopped fresh basil 


1.  Bring a large pot of salted water to boil.
2.  Season chicken generously with salt, pepper, oregano and basil. Heat a large skillet on high heat. When hot, spray with oil and add chicken. Cook about 3-4 minutes, until no longer pink. Remove chicken and set aside.
3.  Add pasta and cook according to package directions. Reserve about 1/2 cup pasta water before draining.
4.  While pasta cooks, add olive oil to skillet on high heat. Add garlic and sauté until golden brown (do not burn). Add tomatoes, salt and pepper and reduce heat to medium-low. Sauté about 4-5 minutes. When pasta is drained, add pasta to tomatoes and toss well. If pasta seems too dry, add some of the reserved pasta water. Add fresh basil and chicken and toss well.
5.  Serve and top with good grated cheese.

Dinner- Beef Filets with Portobello Sauce (recipe from TasteofHome)



beef tenderloin steaks (4 ounces each)                            
1/2 cup dry red wine or reduced-sodium beef broth                            
1 teaspoon all-purpose flour                            
1/2 cup reduced-sodium beef broth                            
1 teaspoon each steak sauce, Worcestershire sauce and ketchup                            
1/2 teaspoon ground mustard                            
4 ounces fresh baby portobello mushrooms, sliced                           
1/4 teaspoon pepper                            
1/8 teaspoon salt                            
1 tablespoon minced chives, optional


1.  In a large nonstick skillet coated with cooking spray, brown steaks on both sides over medium-high heat. Remove and keep warm.                             
2.  Reduce heat to medium. Add wine or broth to pan, stirring to loosen browned bits; cook for 2-3 minutes or until liquid is reduced by half. Combine flour and broth until smooth; whisk into the pan juices. Add steak sauce, Worcestershire sauce, ketchup and mustard. Bring to a boil.                          
3.  Return steaks to the skillet; add mushrooms. Cook for 4-5 minutes on each side or until meat reaches desired doneness (for medium-rare, a meat thermometer should read 145°; medium, 160°; well-done, 170°).
4.  Sprinkle with pepper, salt and chives if desired

Dessert- Strawberry Mousse Cream Puffs (recipe from feedingmygiant)download (2)

Ingredients- (For the Puffs)

2 3/4 cups flour
1/8 tsp salt
1/2 tsp baking soda
2 cups water
1 stick plus 2 tbsp butter
4 large eggs

Directions- (for the puffs)

1.  Preheat oven to 425.  Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper.  Sift the flour, salt, and baking soda together and set aside.
2.  In a heavy saucepan, heat the water.  Add the butter.  When melted, remove the pan from the stove and add the flour mixture all at once.  Beat with a wooden spoon, then return the pan to medium-high heat, beating the mixture until it comes away from the sides of the pan.  Continue to stir until mixture forms into a ball with glossy coating (3-5 minutes).
3.  Remove the ball of dough and place into a mixing bowl. 
4.  Add the eggs one at a time to the dough beating with a wooden spoon or hand mixer in-between additions to mix well (I prefer the hand mixer method).
5.  Fill a pastry bag fitted with a 1/2-inch tip with the cream puff batter.  Squeeze out 3-inch puffs, about 1/2 inch apart on a cookie sheet. 
6.  Bake 20 minutes or until golden brown.  When done, carefully slit the side of each cream puff with a knife or poke the tops with a toothpick to allow steam to escape and to prevent the puffs from becoming soggy inside.    Transfer to cooling racks and let cool.

Ingredients- (for the strawberry mousse)

2 tablespoons water
1 (1/4-ounce) packet unflavored gelatin
8 ounces strawberries, washed, hulled, and cut into large dice
2 tablespoons granulated sugar
1 teaspoon lemon juice
¾ cup heavy cream 

Directions- (for the mousse)

1.  Place the water in a small bowl, sprinkle the gelatin evenly over the surface, and stir to combine; set aside.
2.  Combine the strawberries, sugar, and lemon juice in a small saucepan and stir to coat the berries in the sugar. Mash the berries with a potato masher to release their juices, then bring the mixture to a boil over medium-high heat. Reduce the heat to medium low and simmer, stirring occasionally, until the berries are falling apart and the juices have thickened slightly, about 10 minutes. Meanwhile, set a fine-mesh strainer over a large bowl.
3.  Pour the strawberry mixture into the strainer. Using a rubber spatula, push on the solids and scrape the underside of the strainer until all of the liquid is extracted; discard the contents of the strainer. Immediately whisk the gelatin mixture into the strawberry liquid until it’s dissolved and smooth. Set aside to cool to room temperature, about 15 minutes. Meanwhile, place the clean bowl of the stand mixer and the whisk attachment in the freezer.
4.  Place the cream in the chilled stand-mixer bowl and whisk on high speed until medium peaks form, about 1 minute.\
5.  Give the strawberry mixture a quick whisk to smooth it out, add the whipped cream a quarter cup at a time, folding gently into mixture in between each addition.  Fold just until no white from the cream is visible. 
6.  Transfer the mixture to a large resealable bag or piping bag.

Assembly directions-
1.  Cut the cooled puffs horizontally.  Fill the bottom half of the puffs with strawberry mousse.
2.  Replace the tops and dust with powdered sugar, or top with favorite chocolate topping.
3.  Serve immediately



5 Love Languages- Physical Touch

Phsyical Touch
‘A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other’s needs’~1 Corinthians 7:3
(This post is a continuation in the series on Gary Chapman’s ‘The Five Love Languages’.  For the intro post please follow this link. –
If your husband is someone who has a primary or secondary love language rating of physical touch, he feels emotional connection through being touched.  This love language is not just with the intention of sexual intimacy.  This means anything from a hug to a pat on the arm, these things bring him emotional fulfillment. Here is a blurb on physical touch from the five love languages website…

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.’

I used to have a good friend who is an orthodox jew.  We worked together in a school setting and were a little bit excluded from our coworkers because of many of our convictions, especially about sex.  One day, we went out for lunch and she shared something very powerful with me.  She shared with me that Jewish people are taught about how powerful touch can be, which is why she is so careful about it.  She gave the example of a waiter or waitress, explaining ‘when you have a waitress who is taking your order and walks away, you feel no connection to them.  They are your waitress.  That is it.  If they take your order, and then touch your shoulder or pat your arm while beginning to walk away, suddenly they become personal to you.  It is a natural reaction.’  That really effected the way I viewed touch from then on.

I was a member of a homeless ministry with my church’s youth group where we would go and visit the homeless people at the local ferry terminal, bring them food and care packages, and spend time with them.  About a year after that talk with my friend, I felt great compassion for a woman I was speaking to and rubbed her shoulder.  She broke down crying to me, saying that it was not uncommon for people from different hospitality ministries to come and feed them and speak to them, but no one would ever touch her.  She said that for the first time in years, she felt like a human.  This is the power of touch.

Scientifically, touch in a relationship is proven to relieve stress and reduce phyiscal pain.  Within a marriage, touch is a bonding agent, producing intimacy and connection.  It causes the feeling of safety, unity, security and more.

To crave touch and not receive it can be hurtful.  If a man initiates touch, and it is met with hesitance, this can cause rejection, which can breed a plethora of other issues.  He could even potentially feel like a freak or a pervert.  This is not ever how we should cause our husbands to feel.

It may not be your love language, and you may even feel mildly uncomfortable about being touchy-feely,  One of my best friends does not like touch, but since most of her friends have high ratings for physical touch in their relationships, she constantly makes an effort to embrace us physically, going out of her comfort zone.  She cares so much about her relationship with her friends and is willing to put her preferences aside to bond with us, and we appreciate that so much.  How much more should we sacrifice for our husbands?


For this next week, try to go beyond yourself and give your husband the touch he desires.  Initiate it.  Try for a week and come back and report how it effected your relationship.  Here are some things to try out-

Hug him spontaneously
When passing him, touch him
Cuddle him
Hold his hand
When sitting next to him, allow your elbows or knees to touch
Play footsies with him
Do “do’s” (gently running your fingertips over his arm, or behind his neck)

Extra points for-
Laying hands on him while you pray over him
Give him a full body massage
Initiating sexual intimacy

I am praying that this produces good things in your marriage.  Please come back and let me know how it impacted your relationship.


Five Love Languages- Introduction

You may have heard of Gary Chapman’s book ‘The Five Love Languages‘.  It is an analysis of your emotional communication preferences.  There is a survey you can take which will help you determine how you prefer to receive love.  People give and receive love in many different ways.  Usually, people give the love that they want to receive.  This can often lead to frustration and strain within a relationship, because partners will often have differing emotional communication preferences, and not always be aware of how to meet their significant other’s needs. It is even possible that at one time, you were fulfilling each other’s needs, but no longer are.  Over time, your primary love language may change.

For example, in only two years, my primary love language shifted from the highest possible score for Physical Touch (12) which is now my 3rd love language (8), after Words of Affirmation (11) and Quality Time (9).  I was blessed with an observant husband plus the freedom within my relationship with him to communicate my needs, so the shift was met with ease on both parts.  I was still so happy to actually see myself changing, instead of just feeling different about physical touch, I was able to see my preferences and sort them out.

There are five main love languages.  They are:

Words of Affirmation

Physical Touch

Acts of Service

Quality Time

Receiving Gifts

Date-Night-In Idea…

I would recommend taking this test, and having your spouse take it as well.  Read and talk about what their needs are, and how you can fulfill their needs better. Don’t be afraid to express your needs, allow yourself to be vulnerable to your spouse, even if they are surprised by the results.  Communicate with them, and allow this test to be the ice breaker.  I recommend taking the test alone and then coming together to discuss the results. Pray with your spouse that God gives you the ability to communicate love for your husband the way he needs to receive it.  Here is the test link, it is free and only takes a few minutes.

My next few posts will be addressing these love languages, along with giving ideas as to how to meet the needs of your spouse in these areas.  Please, follow along.  Be blessed.


Learning What Marriage Isn’t


Having a wedding is easy, but 50% of marriages end in divorce.  We must be doing something wrong, right?  There are so many misconceptions about what marriage ‘should be’.  This causes so much pain and disappointment.  I was so blessed to have an amazing pre-marital counselor (who happens to now be my father-in-law, or as I just call him- “dad”) and Jon and I were able to go into it having a more realistic sense of what to expect.  We went into marriage knowing that our relationship was not just about us, the purpose of our covenant relationship was to reflect the relationship that Christ has with the church, His bride.

Marriage isn’t for you.  There is a very popular post going around nowadays called ‘why marriage isn’t for you’.  While it is just a secular post, there is some truth to it.  It is about a man who got married and wasn’t getting what he had hoped to get out of the deal.  He went to his dad who told him “Marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”  Now, while it takes out Christ completely, it could be added that it is first about Christ, and then about the person you married.

Marriage isn’t about sex.  As young Christians, so much pressure is put on us to ‘wait until marriage’.  So we see marriage as the shiny gates.  We race towards that finish line with so much excitement, to either finally have sex (if you succeeded in waiting) or to have sex without conviction (if you hadn’t silenced the Holy Spirit while you were in sin).  Sex is the most intimate and special gift you can give to your spouse.  And, I hate to be a bubble burster, but it usually doesn’t happen as frequently as desired, for either party.  More on sex at a later date, for now, lets just focus on the fact that marriage is NOT about sex.

Marriage isn’t a cure for loneliness.  Simply is not.   When we are lonely, we need to press into Christ, no matter how much it hurts.   It is hard, but we have to trust that He will fill all of our voids.  And, spoiler alert… you can still feel very lonely, even with a husband, and even when they are right next to you in bed.  Lonely single people become lonely married people.  God did not create any person to fulfill another person, except for Jesus.  Humans just were not designed to fill each others needs.

Marriage isn’t a way of escape.  Have an issue with the family or roommate that you just need to get away from?  Marriage is not a means to get away from someone.  Breaking away from an unhealthy relationship and jumping into another relationship for the wrong reasons will cause another unhealthy relationship.  Christ desires for reconciliation.  Because we live in an imperfect world, sometimes this is not as easy as you would hope.  However, running from something into the arms of someone else is not healthy, for anyone involved.  Again, God didn’t design someone else to fill your voids, or to fix your problems.

Marriage isn’t going to bring you closer to Christ.  I have heard of so many people hoping that the relationship with their spouse will make them closer to Christ.  The visions of the prayer meetings with him, the accountability to read the Bible daily, the hopes and dreams that somehow he will help your relationship with the Lord.  This doesn’t happen like that.  If anything, your marriage will be more of a distraction from daily quiet time. Prayer with your spouse will get shorter and shorter, if at all, and nothing will be what you had hoped it was.  Unless, of course if you begin the work prior.  Or, if you are already married, pray for enough grace, maturity and discipline to gain the relationship that Christ desires to have with you, His child.  And pray that your husband will compliment you on this journey.

So, that is that. Marriage can be such a fulfilling thing, as long as it is within the bounderies that God designed it to be within.  Don’t put too much pressure on it. Take joy in the little things.  Be content, and be constant.   I’ll be praying for my marriage, and praying for everyone who reads this post.


Intro :)

We have four days until our 3 month anniversary.  October 19th was the happiest day of our lives.  We may be still in the ‘newlywed’ stages of marriage, but I can say that it has been both the easiest and the hardest thing to get accustomed to.  We have never lived together so we are learning each other in so many new ways, even after 6 and a half years of dating. The Lord is opening our eyes to new things about each other, and molding us to be His masterpiece.  It was so easy before we were married to slip under the radar, now we are able to clearly see each other’s sins, shortcomings, strengths, blessings and gifts.  As “Iron sharpens Iron” (proverbs 27:17), we are learning to humble ourselves to correct as well as be corrected, and to gain maturity in Christ together.

We are both strong willed, we are both natural born leaders, we are both artists, we are both passionate.  We are now learning to compromise, learning to listen, follow and submit, learning to enjoy each other’s odd tendencies, and we are learning to be passionate together.  About each other and most importantly about the Lord.  We are no longer living for ourselves, but we are living for Christ and we are living for each other.

No one said marriage was easy, I know it wont be, but we can find joy in our marriage.  Joy in the Lord.  Ecclesiastes 4:12 says ‘… a chord of three strands is not easily broken.’  We are learning to lean on that third strand, for everything, we are strong in Him.  He is our help in times of trouble.  He is our provider.  He is our comforter, the list goes on and on…. He is everything we need.

This blog is going to be about my pursuit.  My pursuit of my husband and my pursuit of Christ.  It will have recipes, fun ideas, date nights, gift ideas, scripture verses, devotionals, you name it.  I am praying that this not only helps others, but that is helps me.  In all that I do, I do it for His Glory.